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Are you currently experiencing relationship problems?

Have the challenges of living in a foreign country put a strain on your relationship? Are you looking for a safe haven where you and your partner can be guided in working out your problems? Are you looking for couples therapy with an experienced couples therapist?

Sometimes a relationship that was once so warm and loving can get stuck in such a way that you and your partner lose sight of each other. Going to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) couples therapy together is a good way to reconnect and to strengthen your bond.

Many couples have benefited from the proven effectiveness of EFT. This method of couples therapy enables couples to overcome their negative interaction patterns. These negative interaction patterns exhaust the love, undermine the trust, and cause much sorrow and frustration.

If you are expats or a mixed-language couple looking for a couples therapist where you can express yourself in English, I would like to be of service to you.

Couples Therapy for expats and mixed-language couples

I would like to meet you…

Reginald Markes Couples Counsellor

My name is Reginald Markes. I’m an experienced couples therapist specifically trained in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). I am specialized in working with couples with relationship problems where trust is an issue.

My focus is on the emotional connection that couples have with each other and how to re-establish trust, safety and a deeper intimacy within the relationship. I provide therapy for couples who wish to make positive and long lasting changes in their lives and in their relationships.

I offer safe, compassionate and supportive therapy in an atmosphere that deepens understanding and promotes healing. My style is humorous, positive, empathic and respectful of personal values and lifestyles. I make sure the therapy is specifically tailored to match each couple’s needs.

How may I help you?

The couples that I assist have diverse relationship problems, ranging from intense arguing to infidelity. Whatever the cause might be, relationship problems always lead to an emotional disconnection between partners.

As an EFT couples therapist, I focus on repairing and healing the emotional connection. This way, you can trust each other again and bring security and intimacy to your relationship.

I assist couples with relationship problems by means of Emotionally Focused Therapy, the preventative relationship course ‘Hold me tight’ or a Relationship Crisis intervention.

I am dedicated to saving your relationship

I gladly work with couples who are eager to make their relationship close, loving and happy again… Couples who consciously choose to give their relationship a long-term, positive turn, despite the problems they may be experiencing.

I don’t work with all couples. I am sorry, but I do not regard myself as the right therapist for couples who “would like to see whether their relationship still has a point” or “would like to be able to tell the kids and the family that they have tried everything to save their relationship, but …” or who want to transfer the responsibility for saving their relationship to me, the therapist…

I prefer to dedicate myself to couples who understand that they can have the beautiful relationship they desire if they are truly committed and put it the necessary effort to achieve this. Even when this is so difficult.

What can you expect from me?

Repairing relationships cannot be captured in a defined mould of hours and minutes. For this reason, I do not work on the basis of hours but on the basis of sessions. A session with me lasts at least 90 minutes, and longer if necessary.

My sessions do not end with: “Your time is up! Thank you for coming. I will see you next week.”, while you were still in the middle of your sentence.

I want you to achieve something valuable for your relationship each session. I want you to have taken a step in the direction you desire. I want each session to end with you having the courage to continue building upon your relationship.

I apply a practical approach which is based on the reality that arises in the session. Pushing you or pulling you is not my style, yet I do not mind taking you out of your comfort zone if that is necessary. No matter what, my approach is always respectful and loving. I offer a lasting result, not a ‘quick fix’.

EFT couples therapy that is pleasant…

Couples may find it hard to discuss their relationship problems with a complete stranger. As a couple you may be looking for someone who understands and who relates to your feelings, frustrations, and pain. Someone who believes in both of you, even if you may have lost your own faith in your relationship somewhere. Someone who restores your confidence and hope in your relationship…

I will approach you as I would like to be approached myself. As a human being, beautifully complete and whole, with your own unique background and set of strengths and vulnerabilities. My focus will be on the relationship. In my eyes you are not broken. I do not set out to diagnose, label of fix you. And that is what makes my approach so pleasant.

EFT Couples Therapy in Zoetermeer

I am conveniently located near the cities The Hague and Rotterdam.

My practice is within an easy drive from such places as: Alphen aan de Rijn, Bergschenhoek, Berkel and Rodenrijs, Bleiswijk, Bodegraven, Boskoop, Delft, Den Haag, Gouda, Leiden, Leidschendam, Leidschenveen, Nootdorp, Pijnacker, Rijswijk, Rotterdam, Voorburg, Waddinxveen and Ypenburg.

There is ample free parking.