After an affair has happened…
Cheating, adultery, infidelity or an affair… these are all just different words describing an act that is so awful that violates the trust and shatters the respect in a relationship. The words may differ but the impact is always the same: devastating!
Most couples have great difficulty dealing with the shocking effects of an affair. Is this currently the case in your relationship? If so, how are you dealing with it? Are you going leave each other? Is this the end of the relationship and love that you cherished so much? Or will you be able to heal the relationship and rebuild the trust?
This is for sure… The solid base of trust, security and safety that you once shared is gone. All that remains is probably an unbearable sense of loss, helplessness and grief.
What to do now that the affair is in the open…
Keep open lines of communication. Yes, I know… this may be very, very difficult in this situation. But realize that only by working together you stand a chance of overcoming this situation. And, if you succeed in doing this, your relationship will be stronger than before. It may seem contradictory but at this moment you need each other more than ever! Together you can save your relationship!
You can save your relationship! Yes, even after an affair.
Saving your relationship is possible. Even after an affair. Even if you feel like all hope is lost.
Saving your relationship may be possible, but it will not be easy. You both will need to support each other on the long way to recovery. To heal the relationship you both will have to take steps to rebuild the trust and respect that has been lost.