Hello, nice to meet you…
My name is Reginald Markes. I’m an experienced couples therapist specifically trained in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). I specialize in working with couples with relationship problems where trust is an issue.
How may I be of service?
Me, professionally…
As an experienced EFT couples therapist I support couples with a safe and compassionate form of couples therapy or counseling. This happens in a way that encourages understanding and emotional healing. My style is humorous, positive, empathetic, and respectful to all personal norms, values, and ways of life.
I treat you like the beautiful, complete and perfect person that you are, with your own set of qualities and vulnerabilities, and your own unique background. In my eyes, you are not damaged or broken. I have no need to evaluate you, pigeonhole you, or repair you.
During my sessions I create an atmosphere of openness, authenticity, and honesty. In this atmosphere partners find it is easier to say their piece. My therapy is tailor-made. I adjust it to precisely fit the needs of every specific couple. Couples from every walk of life are welcome…
I am registered at EFT Nederland, ICEEFT and NVAGT.
Me, personally…
I have been married since 1999 and I have 2 kids. During my marriage I have learned that being married is hard work. And this hard works consists of always choosing each other, always searching for each other, and always committing to each other. And this doesn’t just happen by itself.
If you want a loving relationship, you should pay attention to it. I believe that the times when my own relationship was in trouble had to do with the attention that my wife and I gave to our relationship. It is of course an open door when I say that it is exactly when there is some trouble that additional attention should be paid to each other and the relationship with each other, but it is exactly at this kind of moments when moving towards each other is the most difficult… or, in any case, that is how I experience it…
Just like every relationship, ours has also had the necessary ups and downs. Believe me, there are enough moments when my wife and I could send each other back where we came from, so to speak. And despite these moments, we have always chosen each other. It is exactly these moments when it is important to consciously choose each other, to go for each other despite all obstacles, just like when you still had a crush. I have been able to discover this awareness myself through EFT.
EFT has taught me to turn less towards myself when there is some trouble. It has taught me what the value is of making myself vulnerable and daring to say to my wife: “I need you…! Stand by me…!” EFT has helped me realise that my every move influences her every move. If both of us are prepared to control our moves, we are connected to each other and that is the foundation of a fantastic relationship…